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Nothing But a Number..

When I was growing up it seemed to me that all of my friends’ parents were roughly the same age.  I’m not entirely sure if that was true, but it just seemed that way.  Maybe it’s because they were so much older than I was that their ages all just fit in to the same category - old.  I could probably do some homework now and figure out of it was true or not, but that’s beside the point.

I met my husband when I was 19.  I was a freshman in college.  Of course at that time, I didn’t know he’d be my husband.  That was almost 12 years ago!  We continued to date throughout college, he graduated, got a “real” job, I graduated, got a “real” job, and then we moved in together.  Within a year we were engaged.  After a year and a half engagement, we were married.  A little over a year after that, our first child, Brinley, was born.  I’ll save you time from doing the math… I was engaged at 23, married at 24 and had my first baby at 25.  Sometimes I’d hear that I was so young or moving too fast, but I never let that bother me.

Now, nearly 12 years after meeting my husband, Scott, I am happily married, have two beautiful daughters and pretty much living the life I always imagined.  My older daughter is in Kindergarten this year.  She’s involved in a slew of activities outside of school.  I’ve met lots of other moms along my journey and I wonder how Brinley perceives us all.  Does she just think we’re all old?  Does she think we’re all the same age?  I know for a fact that she has friends who’s parents are almost 20 years older than I am.  She also has friends who’s parents are younger than I am, though not by much.  I’d agree that I’m probably one of the younger moms but that doesn’t seem to have any effect on my relationships with other moms I meet, younger or older.

I hear quite a bit that I’m so young or just getting started but other than some years, I have a lot in common with the moms that are 5, 10 and even 20 years older than me.  We all have kids the same age and that is the equalizer.  Our age… it’s nothing but a number.

Days Go By

Amazing how fast time just flies by, huh?  Sometimes I have to stop and think back a few days, weeks or months to really get a grasp on what has been happening in my life.  Would you believe that I turned thirty, yeah 3-0, back in December?  Honestly, how did I get this old?  I remember graduating high school and college and getting my first apartment.  Now here I am a happily married mother of two paying a mortgage and managing a rental property.

Oh and in January, I registered my little girl for Kindergarten.  Seriously, I feel like I just brought her home from the hospital and she’s going to be starting real school in September?  Yikes!  Sometimes I feel like her four and a half years of life have just passed me by.  My little baby has become a real little girl.  She’s reading!  She dresses herself every single day {sometimes much to my dismay} and we actually have real conversations.

And my baby?  Well, she turned two on Sunday.  She’s not a baby anymore!  She can do just about anything {or at least she’ll try to}.  Walking, talking, running, jumping, you name it – she does it.  Her language amazes me.  Full sentences is an understatement.  She speaks in paragraphs.  She knows what she wants and asks for it.  She idolizes her big sister and for the most part they get along really well.

My house is free of baby swings and bottles.  In their place are ballet slippers and soccer cleats.  Gone are the days of walks in the stroller and easily being able to entertain my kids.  Now I’m scheduling play dates and preparing for dance recitals.  My kids prefer playing with each other or their friends over playing with me.

It’s crazy how quickly time passes, how fast we change and how easily we overlook certain things.  Sometimes I wish I could relive the past 5 years of my life.  So much has happened and I want to remember it all all over again.  But as the days continue to go by I look forward to the future and to all of the great things that are yet to come.

If you wait until you can afford it…

Life is expensive.  Period.

It doesn’t matter where you live or what you do for a living, everything is just expensive.  Houses, cars, clothes, eating out, vacations, yadda, yadda, yadda…  It doesn’t help me that we live in a very high cost of living area.  We’ve tossed around the idea of moving to a more “affordable” part of the country but that would likely mean a pay cut for Scott. If that happens then really what is the point in living in a less expensive area?

I was watching House Hunters the other night and there was a young couple, maybe early 20s, looking to buy their first house.  They lived in Utah and their budget was $250,000 (roughly).  I imagined what you could get here for that price and was laughing on the inside.  Maybe you could get a 900 sq ft, 2 bedroom, 1 bath bungalow on a postage stamp sized lot.  Then the realtor pulls into the driveway of a home that she is going to show the couple.  It’s listed at $210,000.  It looked something like this:

Four bedrooms, three bathrooms and over 3,000 sq ft.  We paid more than that for our 2 bedroom 1.5 bath townhouse six years ago.  I had a little teeny tiny bit of house envy.  But I digress..

What I am really trying to get at here is when people say that they’re not going to do something (buy a house, get married, have a child) until they can afford it.  If I (we) waited until I (we) could afford any of those things, then I’d still be single and probably living at home with my parents or maybe renting a 1 bedroom apartment somewhere.  Like I said, life is expensive.  We don’t use credit cards (now) and we don’t live beyond our means, but when we got engaged in 2003 we couldn’t really afford to pay for an engagement ring let alone a wedding.  Yet somehow we made it happen.  We saved and saved and made payments and eventually it was behind us.  The same holds true for buying a home and having kids.  You’ll never be able to afford either of those things, in my opinion, unless you are Mr or Mrs Moneybags.  If you keep waiting until you can afford it, it will never happen.

I do not regret any of the expensive decisions that I (we) have made in life.  I am 100% happy and content with everything that we’ve bought and done.  But I know that if I waited until I thought we could afford any of it, I’d be nowhere near where I am today.

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