If I had a dime for every time someone asked me if I was going to “try for a boy” I’d be rich.  Well, probably not rich, but you know what I mean.  This question mostly comes from people who are older and done having kids or from people who don’t have any kids at all.  It really boggles my mind that people get so caught up in this question.  It is a question that I truly can not stand and I hate it when people ask it, to me or anyone else.  (The same holds true for “Are you going to try for a girl?”)

Let me break it down for you.  I have two children, two daughters to be exact.  I love them to pieces and can’t imagine either of them any other way (as boys).  Before I had kids, I had always thought that having one of each would be great but I never really had a preferences.  I never cared whether they were boys or girls as long as they were healthy. Even though I don’t have one of each, there is no burning desire in me to have a son.  If I had had one, I’d love him just the same as I do my daughters.  I’m sure parenting a son would be different in some ways than parenting a daughter but that does not intrigue me enough to “try” to have a son.

Anyway, the reason the question really bothers me is because of the emphasis on the “trying”.  It’s as if when a man and a woman create a child they are “trying” to produce either a girl or a boy.  Now I don’t know about you, but that thought never crossed my mind when I was getting down and dirty.  That just seems wrong to me.

So, I have two children, two daughters.  I love having two daughters.  I don’t feel like I’m missing out by not having a son.  I’m pretty sure that I’m not going to have any more kids but even if I did, it wouldn’t be to “try” for a boy.  It would be because I wanted to have a third child, regardless of it’s sex.

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